I get e-mails from time to time from Classmates. If you don’t know what that is, it is a website that lets you connect with former high school, college, and military friends. As my high school had their 20 yr. reunion this year (yikes!), our Classmates group has been active. I didn’t go to my reunion, but I have wondered from time to time what former friends have been up to.
So…I have gotten several messages over the last few months that folks have left messages on my Classmates page. The downer is that in order for you to see who sent you a note, you have to pay bucks. I really wish that Classmates had a “one day fee” where you could read notes and exchange e-mails. That would be nice. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way. The minimum membership is 3 months. I don’t need to be a member for 3 months. I just want to catch up with a few old friends. Talk about our kids and what life has been like.
I went on Classmates yesterday to look around. For some reason, I was curious and decided to look up my husband’s old girlfriend and my old boyfriend. Wow! People sure do change. When we are younger, we feel like we can’t live without someone, and then we are crushed when life doesn’t conform to our desires. I read both of their bios and realized that life turned out the way it should. Our first loves aren’t always the ones that we will spend our life with. Having a crush on someone doesn’t mean that they will become your mate.
I also looked up a dear guy friend of mine that I really missed when he graduated. He was extremely kind and always knew the right things to say. I remember starting to like him more then a friend in my junior year. I made the mistake of asking him to a dance. Our relationship changed after that and he distanced himself from me. I still wonder why that ever happened. Some friendships should stay just that – friends. I sent him a note saying how I have been and asking for his bio. I wonder if he knew how much losing his friendship hurt me back then.
I saw that one of my former classmates was diagnosed with cancer and had very little time to live. She was leaving behind a small son. How sad. I didn’t know her well, but I do remember her being as cute as a button and very nice.
I am still debating about the 3 month membership thing. I didn’t go to my class reunion because I was never part of the “in crowd”. I was an art nerd and didn’t fit in with the stereotypical groups. I just couldn’t see rubbing elbows with folks that didn’t care for me (or made fun of me) 20 yrs. ago. I wonder if I should fork out a few bucks and reconnect with those that were my friends. Maybe I can talk to my old friend again. I hope he is as happy in his life as I am in mine. I hope that he is happily married to a wonderful person too. Time sure does change who we are. Life is funny like that.